Thursday, April 30, 2015

How Do You Feel?

"What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind." -Buddha
Do you feel lucky, happy, positive or grateful? And if not, then what do you feel? Luck is a funny word. I've always thought of it as good fortune. According to Merriam Webster it is a force that brings good fortune or adversity. To me, bad luck is an oxymoron but regardless, being that I'm a bit Irish and with St. Patrick's Day upon us I thought it a good topic to talk about.

As a side note, did you know that the "Luck of the Irish" can be interpreted either way? Some say they were lucky and some say they were unlucky. But as always it's all about how you interpret anything that makes the difference in how you will experience it. It's the glass half full or half empty kinda thing.

So, let me ask you again: How do you feel? Many times I feel so lucky for so many reasons but believe me when I tell you there are times that I forget how truly lucky I am. I can moan and complain and whine about stuff but it's typically short lived once I come back to my senses.

This should be an excerpt from Confessions of a Positive Person! Positive people aren't supposed to feel anything but upbeat, happy, hopeful and positive, right? Well yes you would think so but that isn't always the case, even for us proclaimed positive types.

We all have our share of frustrations, heartache, disappointments and adversities too. There are days that you wish you could do over, days you wish you could entirely forget about and there are days you wish would never end. Sadly most people don't experience the latter often enough.

But, it is when these negative feelings that haunt each and every one of our lives come knocking at your front door that you have to decide whether you are going to invite them in for a very short visit or have them check in for an extended stay. Some people allow these unwanted feelings stay so long they don't know how to get them to leave.

The difference between positive and negative people is mainly one thing. It is what they think. And as you all know by now we choose what we think. And what we think about we bring about! Sure, you can get cranky, irritated and teed off, who doesn't? But what makes the biggest difference is how long you allow those kinds of feelings and emotions to hang out with you. And again...therein lies the difference.

So when I ask you how you feel, remember you choose how you are going to feel by what you choose to think about. Let me break it down in its most simplistic form.

Your beliefs about something create your thoughts about it. Your thoughts about it create how you are going to feel about it.How you feel will be how you experience it. Beliefs → Thoughts → Feelings → Experience. So if you're feeling lucky, happy, grateful or whatever it's all about what thoughts you choose to interpret whatever is going on in your life.

The last several months my mom has been very sick and I can't imagine losing her but I know that someday it is inevitable. It is something I try to avoid thinking about but the other night I got on a crying jag about it because the thought of loss was so overwhelming. I realized that this pain is just a glimpse of what I will experience when that day comes.

But I also realized that it is a part of the process called grief. And as afraid as I am about going through it I also know that I will move through it. So, no matter what is going on in your life choose how you view it. Don't be so mad about stuff you have no control over and do something about what you can control. Stop living with regrets and start to focus on your blessings. Quit living in the past and wishing things were different begin to live for today and wish for the best instead.

How you feel right this very second is all about what you are thinking. I feel lucky! I feel so fortunate that I still have some time with my mom, that I can touch people's lives with my work and that I live with more of a positive outlook than a negative one. And do you want to know why I do, because that is what I choose!

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