Sociopath!

What is a Sociopath? 
We have all heard this word, but many of us do not know its meaning! 
A sociopath is someone who has the hallmarks of extreme selfishness, lack of empathy and lack of conscience. Sometimes the word is used interchangeably with the word 'psychopath' and the words 'antisocial personality disorder' is also often used by professionals. They appear in all walks of life; doctors, lawyers, accountants, politicians, etc., etc., and are manipulative, impulsive, unkind and mean, they have a sense of superiority and entitlement, are judgemental and often bully others into submission. They are also narcissistic and think or speak about themselves in exagerated terms. It is thought that 3 - % of the population have this defect in their character. There is no suitable medication to treat it. Anger management can help. If you would like more information, visit: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/5a39/58c07beed3924bfaf5e51ee8f404af7d2f5b.pdf 
and: http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/psychopath.htm 

Narcissism!

 

Narcissism! 

This is a common condition. They are your work colleagues, your family and friends, your neighbours and others than you come into contact with throughout the day. The condition is often abbreviated to NPD, the shortened form of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We all have some aspects of these personality traits, especially when we are upset or under stressful situations. If you would like more information, visit: http://www.escapeabuse.com/npd.pdf

and: http://www.sakkyndig.com/psykologi/artvit/silverstein2007-2.pdf

Low Self Esteem

There are many causes of low self esteem. It is a largely unrecognised condition that controls your life, reduces your enjoyment of life, causes you to not succeed in life, either in the work environment or in personal relationships. Especially, you might allow yourself to be badly treated by other people - or treat other people badly - and you might not be ambitious for yourself or your children. You might not realise just how low your self esteem is. Working to improve your self worth is something you can do for yourself. 

For more information: https://www.mind.org.uk/media/715750/how-to-increase-your-self-esteem-2013.pdf

and: https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk//docs/SelfEsteem.pdf

Night Terrors

What are night terrors and How is it best to deal with them? 
Night Terrors usually occurs in childhood and children often grow out of them but they can occur during adulthood. This type of frightening dream occurs in a particular time during the sleep cycle. Sometimes, during this period, the person might cry out, scream or shake, they might shout or lash out. They might also get up during their sleep and walk around, as though they are awake, but they are in fact, fully asleep. They can often be triggered by a stressful experience. In children, they should be allowed to take their course, in adults, they might require a relaxing bedtime routine, sleep without interruption from outside noise. For more information, visit:  http://www.kidfixer.com/kidfixer.com/Information_Sheets_files/Night%20Terrors.pdf 
or:  https://www.sleephealthfoundation.org.au/pdfs/sleep-terrors.pdf

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is often shortened to PTSD. It can occur following an accident, a crime, a bad experience of any kind. Anyone can suffer from it if the stresses are great enough. It can have physiological and psychological causes, such as sleeplessness, nightmares, panic attacks, free floating anxiety, tearfulness, loss of memory, feelings of anger, depression and distress. If you would like more information about this illness, visit: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-basics/ptsd-etr-web_38054.pdf

and:  https://www.mind.org.uk/media/1594512/understanding-ptsd-2014.pdf

Coping Skills

Helplessness, anger, feelings of being out of control are common following emergencies. Depression can also follow, exhaustion and can compound the situation. Stressed minds only come to stressed conclusions. Get into nature, see friends and speak to them about your problems, seek professional advice and take it. Buold you own immunity to stress during quiet times, prepare for the worst but hope for the best. You can cope better, regardless of your experiences and difficulties.

For more information, a resources link here: https://depts.washington.edu/hcsats/PDF/TF-%20CBT/pages/cognitive_coping.html

and: http://www.selfinjury.bctr.cornell.edu/perch/resources/coping-stress-management-english-1.pdf 

and:  https://www.nyu.edu/content/dam/nyu/studentHealthServices/documents/PDFs/mental-health/CWS_SOS_for_Emotions_Booklet.pdf

The Lost Land of Shambhala

Legends abound of a lost land of great beauty, a paradise where superhuman feats are conducted by its people who have great esoteric knowledge! Theosophists suggested this land was in the Gobi Desert, the Chinese say in the Kun Lun Mountains. Greek and Middle Eastern sources say it is in thevAltae Mountains and some Taoistscsay in Szechwan and Tibet. Hungarians say it is in the Syr Darla River and Russians say it is in the Belovodye. In 1923 an expedition was sent to the Kokushi Mountains but never returned.
Perhaps the person most likely to have known where this mysterious land can be found is a Tibetan abbot who wrote 'The Path to Shambala' who describes the entrance to the lost land as being in Mongolia. This mystical land is also known as 'Shangri'La'.
Visit for more information: http://intersci.ss.uci.edu/wiki/eBooks/BOOKS/Shambhala.pdf

Alexandra David-Neel

Who was Alexandra David-Neel?
(24 October 1868 – 8 September 1969) She was the daughter of a Hugenot Freemason teacher and in her early years, she was taught piano and singing. She became a student of Madam Blavatsky and other secret societies, such as Freemasonry, where she rose in the ranks to high status. She converted to Buddhism when she was 20 years old and due to her own personal fortune, and her ability to sing, became an intrepid explorer, such as to Mongolia, Korea, Japan and India, much of the time disguised as a begggar and a monk. She was also an early feminist, Spiritualist, political anarcist and writer of 40 books on Eastern philosophy. In 1924, she travellend to Tibet and became a lama. At that time Tibet was closed to foreigners. She underwent the notorious 'chod' initiation, an experience of greatest stress, where demons and devils cause the disintegration of the self. She also was engaged in the extraordinary creation of the 'tulpa', where a spirit is summoned and given sufficient power to materialise. 

What is Focusing?

Eugene Gendlin developed this technique with other psychologists at the University of Chicago in the 1960s as a result of research that was conducted between therapists and their clients. They discovered that the clients who were in touch with their felt sense achieved greater and quicker recovery from distress. Focusing helps us to feel what is happening at the present time, creating a greater sense of truth and reality.  

For more information, visit: http://www.focusing.org/pdf/friedman_gendlin_annals.pdf 

and:  http://www.cefocusing.com/freedownloads/2b1bCompleteFocusingInstructions.pdf

Dealing with Depression

Depression is a lonely existance, because other people don't understand. It is a low energy illness, a feeling of meaninglessness, guilt, shame, worthlessness and hopelessness. It is not just a state of mind, but an illness, a disability and can sometimes lead to suicide in very serious cases. Advice does not usually work, even when meant well because the person is often totally unable to take it. There is much the person can do to help themselves, but they need to feel well enough to find them for themselves.
Learn more, and conquer this affliction without drugs...
For more information: http://www.comh.ca/publications/resources/asw/SCDPAntidepressantSkills.pdf
and: http://www.sign.ac.uk/pdf/sign114.pdf

Brief History of Humankind

PhD in History, the eminent Dr Yuval Noah Harari speaks about the history of human beings, from the author of best-selling book 'Sapiens'. A fascinating lecture from RSA Animate. 

Helping your Child!

Yoga Meditations

 

Yoga Meditations: 

Sit comfortably with your eyes closed.

Exhale and inhale deeply a few times.

Breathe naturally while you focus on the following:

Yoga is a deep well into which we can tap, drawing forth whatever we need to bring ourselves into wholeness and balance.  

Ask yourself what will bring wholeness and balance to your life. 

Wait for an image or an idea to arise. 

Be still with that vision or thought for  few minutes. 

Breathe.

Cleaning and Healing by Marilyn Eppolite

"I had spent most of the last 6 weeks resting so I could heal and without any complications. My life was focused on this. My energy level had to be nourished so I did not become exhausted. Even mental activity drained my energy reserve in the first few weeks after surgery. I finally would feel drawn to an activity, alerting me I had the energy to attempt the task. Slowly more activities showed up on the screen of my awareness, telling me if I didn’t overdo it, it was okay to reclaim an activity to my schedule. This week the object of my desire was cleaning the bathroom…

One of many guides to Meditation

Meditation is proven to be one of the simplest and most effective ways to handle stress, and it's easy enough that anyone can do it and begin enjoying the benefits immediately.  In fact, most people find that regular meditation helps them prevent stress from building up in the first place. If you have ever wanted to start a meditation practice but kept putting it off because you didn't know how to get started, you'll be pleased to know that it's probably easier than you think.

Chief Seattle 1854

“Yonder sky that has wept tears of compassion upon my people for centuries untold, and which to us appears changeless and eternal, may change. Today is fair. Tomorrow it may be overcast with clouds. My words are like the stars that never change. Whatever Seattle says, the great chief at Washington can rely upon with as much certainty as he can upon the return of the sun or the seasons. The white chief says that Big Chief at Washington sends us greetings of friendship and goodwill. This is kind of him for we know he has little need of our friendship in return. His people are many. They are like the grass that covers vast prairies. My people are few. They resemble the scattering trees of a storm-swept plain. The great, and I presume -- good, White Chief sends us word that he wishes to buy our land but is willing to allow us enough to live comfortably. This indeed appears just, even generous, for the Red Man no longer has rights that he need respect, and the offer may be wise, also, as we are no longer in need of an extensive country.

Increasing Your Contentment

1. Let of toxic people in your life- in my experiences, they drain me of vital life energy. I found healthy relationships are better.

2. Let g of fretting about past mistakes- forgive yourself and move on.

3. Let go of the need to be right- I had to ask myself how this was serving me and found that it wasn’t

4. Let go of feeling sorry for yourself- I found my “pity parties” didn’t get me much mileage. I only became good at the martyr-victim role which didn’t serve me well in my relationships.

5. Let go of negative self-talk- This is like toxic people in our lives. Switch to positive self statements and see the change.

6. Let go of the need to impress others- Most people really don’t care. And if they do, are they what you want in business or personal relationships?

7. Let go of limiting beliefs - Like #5, this restricts your ability to move ahead. Set goals and an action plan to accomplish them. You will find limiting beliefs will not achieve the goals.

8. Let go of need to please everyone- You cannot please everyone. Just please yourself and you will be happier.

9. Let go of gossip and complaining- this is like toxic relationships. Cut this out.

10. go of worrying about the future- you cannot control the past or future. Be in the present and live fully. Robert Matuszak Visit: http://www.orionconsultingllc.net/

For more information:  http://www.wisebrain.org/ParasympatheticNS.pdf
and
http://www.mypositivepath.org/book/Hardwiring%20Happiness%20The%20New%20Brain%20Science%20of%20Contentment,%20Calm,%20and%20Confidence.pdf 

The Seven Karmic Paths

1. NO PATH: This path is best expressed in poet William Blake’s words: “The road to excess leads to the palace of wisdom.” Those on this path eventually, through experience and pain, will perceive what has value and what doesn’t. Those on this path judge everything from a perspective of self, and often they have difficulty judging what action will result in harmony as opposed to disharmony. The No Path people appear to have little sense of balance and are usually unwilling to accept responsibility for their own lives. 

Letter from Caroline Myss - a 'must read'

Hi Everyone,  

Well, I appreciate your feedback on my post yesterday. And now I will offer some feedback, if that’s okay by you, as they say. First, there is something to be said for matters of spiritual conscience – not consciousness – but conscience. That is, there comes a time when good people need to speak up when confronted with the face of evil. If not you, then who? Speaking up is not being “political”; it is an act of conscience. I am not promoting anything political. I am pointing a finger at the decline of the quality of life in our nation, in our leaders, in our society-at-large. If we do not speak up, we will ultimately forfeit the right to speak up at all. If you call the right to speak up political, it is you who are mistaken. And I would ask you, “Why are you not screaming from the rooftop?”

Family Constellations Theory

 

Family Constellations Therapy is a powerful method to solve difficult feelings and situations that occur in families. The therapy takes place in a group with each person representing a family member. Similar in some ways to Psychodrama, it can be powerfully insightful and cathartic and bring about change in relationships. 

For more information: http://www2.hellinger.com/fileadmin/user_upload/PDF/AusbKonEngl_2014.pdf 

and: http://www.pathwaystohealing.ca/uploads/3/9/5/7/3957887/summary_of_family_constellations.pdf

Solo Vision Quest

The Vision Quest was held by native tribal people of the Americas and was a time spent alone in nature to learn about themselves and about other species, to be thankful for the water we drink, the song of the birds for comfort and the breeze in the trees for company. We can do this in our time, perhaps with fasting, with meditation, with kindness and love for all we see, hear, feel and experience. This video was made in 2011 but the information does not go out of date.  

For more information: http://www.soulartstudio.com/pdf/your-vision-quest.pdf

Tune in for Serenity

This video helps us to relax during communication with others. It's good advice when dealing with other people and suggests we remain true to ourselves and be aware of ourselves, relax and be serene. This way, we achieve more, have better relationships and feel healthier ourselves. 

For more information, visit: http://stephenhwolinskyphdlibrary.com/downloads/The%20Book%20of%20Serenity.pdf