Predispositions of the Stalker

Not all stalkers possess all the following traits but they are all very common amongst psychopaths and narcissists, of which stalkers inherit their behaviour patterns. 

Behaviour and attitudes: Basically parasitic and underhand, they are stunted emotionally and incapable of change. They want to possess and own you, considering you as nothing more than an object for their purposes. They harbour resentments and cannot cope with rejection. 

They like high risk activities, demonstrating little sense of fear. Their greatest joy is in winning, or rather gloating when you lose out to them. 

Are they a good friend? Only to themselves! Their idealistic ego is to be pampered, plumped and polished all day every day by themselves and by everyone they bully. They like to put you down to the level that you will crawl. How they love compliance! Degradation satisfies them and justifies, in their small minds, the disrespect they have for you.

They exercise control over aspects of their lives, and over other people, and they feel superior, blaming and belittling other people. They have obsessions, especially over circumstances where they can benefit as this is their major interest in life. They manipulate, making you feel devalued and worthless. They have no conscience - you are their victim, always paying the cost of their association! They display cunning cynicism, are jealous, mean and sadistic.

They have power based behaviour, indulging in constant lies and deceits. They are cynically self serving, calculating and cold. They push boundaries, lack kindness, empathy or simple consideration and service to others; they do whatever they like, whenever they like. They are fantasisers, and strong characters that exist in their own delusions. Often charming, and clever and humorous company and like large gestures; they think they are more intelligent than caring people because their greed wants everything for themselves. They love to exercise power over other people. They engineer hurtful and humiliating pranks and stunts at your expense, they create dramas, and insist on angry paybacks. 

They have what are called ‘flying monkeys’, people who are complicit in their bullying behaviour and will do damage for them, often anonymously. They ‘gaslight’ their targets, accusing them of imagining things, being paranoid, making up lies for attention. Sometimes they accuse you of being insane, which you might become if they don’t stop their attacks. 

Article by Racine for Aristo Magazine